A friend of mine has two cats: Max and Diva. Max is orange and white. Diva is black and white. That’s where the similarity ends.
Max is friendly, likes to be petted and spends most of his time laying in the sun. He likes to jump on the counters and kitchen table. Sometimes he uses them as a launching pad to get to the top of the refrigerator and then the top of the cabinets. During the winter, he lies on the top of the cabinets under a ceiling light.
Max is not supposed to be on the counters or the table. There’s the five second rule. Once Max in on the counter or the table, he has five seconds to launch himself to the frig. After five seconds, my friend yells, “MAX GET DOWN!” Max meows and either jumps down or jumps up on the frig.
Max is a risk taker. He doesn’t let life’s little terrors like someone yelling at him, defer him from his goal.
Most cats purr when you pet them. Max purrs even when there is nothing purr about. If I were a Buddhist Monk, I’d say Max has true inner peace. I want to be Max when I grow up.
Diva, on the other paw, spends most of her time under the bed or the couch. I never saw Diva for the first six months that I knew my friend. That’s how long it took for Diva to come out of hiding while I was in the house.
When you look at Diva, she stares back at you with huge eyes. I don’t know what’s going on inside her head but, she looks like she’s caught between frozen and running for her life. Even an offer of food does not get her to be more, well, outgoing.
If there were a picture beside the definition of Scaredy-Cat in the dictionary, it would be Diva.
So, What’s My Point?
Some people are natural born Maxes and some people are natural born Divas. Diva will never be a Max but, if you’re stuck in Diva-Mode in life, you have one thing Diva does not have.
You have a better developed brain. And Guess what?
THAT’S BOTH THE PROBLEM AND THE SOLUTION!
This blog is about fear and anxiety and what you can do about those pesky feelings.