I want to offer some straight forward help with fear and anxiety that you can put to use immediately. I’ll start with a word of warning (eeks! That’s all you need is another warning!) Our brains can change. Scientists have shown over the last few years that our brains can change in amazing ways.
Nevertheless, behaviors that are deeply encoded in our brains don’t change quickly or easily. If they did, every therapist, including yours truly would be out of a job. The multi-billion dollar psychiatric drug industry would also be belly up.
Our behavior was learned by repetition over a period of time. Our behavior also changes by repetition over a period of time.
So, my ‘warning’ is this. Don’t expect too much to quickly. Give yourself time to learn new behaviors.
Having said that, see “Bandaids for Anxiety” to learn several techniques for starting to reprogram your brain. I call them bandaids because you apply them directly to the situation you are scaring yourself about. Only the fourth technique “Targeting Your Fears” requires any insight or exploration of your behavior.
The first three techniques – ya just do um.