In high school, I was taught that gravity is a force that makes apples fall out of trees. Isaac Newton figured that out. His theory was incomplete. Gravity is much more mysterious.
Gravity is the organizing principal of the universe. Gravity tells mass (like planets and our bodies) how to move. The fascinating part is that mass (like planets and our bodies) tell gravity how to shape itself.
Around a body like Earth, gravity causes space to curve. Technically our bodies do the same thing but they are not “massive” enough to have any measurable effect — nope — not even Hulk Hogan. When two massive objects get together they cause gravity to curve space and then they travel in that curve.
You can’t blame mass for telling gravity what to do and you can’t blame gravity for telling mass what to do. They exist as a system; not independently of one another.
Emotions are the gravity of relationships.
Relationship behavior creates our emotions and emotions tell us how to behave in relationships.
Like gravity, emotions cause us to curve toward or away from each other.
And going toward or away from each other creates different emotions.
It’s a system. You can’t blame your emotions on the relationship and you can’t blame how you behave in the relationship on your emotions. They are interrelated, like gravity and mass.
How you behave together is up to you.
Plain and Simple Advice
Your emotions and behavior shape your reality. The older you get, the more it’s going to matter.