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About almondhead

I am a mental health counselor in private practice. One of the focuses of my practice is helping people with fear, anxiety and their ugly stepsister, depression. I became a counselor after a long career in the technology world, so naturally, I think of the brain as an engineering problem. It can help to understand something about how the brain works. I decided to start this blog as a way to help other people learn about fear, anxiety and relationship. (All our problems are really about relationships.) You can also find me at: www.virtuallyfearless.com www.PsychologyToday.com www.theravive.com http://www.marriagefriendlytherapists.com/

Three Ways that We are Special in the Universe

13.7 billion years ago, our universe began to expand. We know this because it is sung in the theme song of The Big Bang Theory, though they round up to 14. You and I began to evolve as the first … Continue reading

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Spring Cleaning

I recall, when I was a kid, the scent of Spring mixed with the smell of detergent and Pledge.  These smells became planted in my brain. They represent the end of the winter sequester, when playing outside meant coat and boots … Continue reading

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Can Friendships Survive Political Differences?

I have a group of men friends who get together once a month to eat and talk. We have a rule that during this monthly meeting, we do not discuss work, sports, or politics. In other words, we want to … Continue reading

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Christmacholia

As I sat with a group of friends, we related our experiences with Christmas as children and then later as adults. Most of us had fond memories of childhood Yule, family traditions, food, the magic of Christmas morning. That was … Continue reading

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When Your World Tilts on Its Axis

I didn’t think Donald Trump could win. I was wrong. I held my view for two reasons. First, I didn’t believe the country would elect someone with such apparently extreme viewpoints. I was wrong     Second, the pollsters said … Continue reading

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This is My Life Now

Do any of these lamentations fit? I used to be married or had a relationship. I used to have a job I liked. I used to have more money. I used to have lunch with mom every Sunday but she … Continue reading

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Unplugging

Unplugging had a strange effect on me. Before I left for my favorite B&B on the shore of Lake Michigan, I left greetings on my business and personal cell phones that I would not be returning calls for a week. … Continue reading

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